Name One Thing with Dr. Cristie Glasheen | Advice on surviving graduate school

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Name One Thing: Advice for graduate students from those who’ve been there.

Welcome to Name One Thing the interview series where I ask academics, researchers, postdocs, and other professionals what they wished they’d known when they were in in graduate school. Today’s guest is… drum roll please…. me! I am a retired epidemiologist turned graduate success coach, here to share my hindsight on surviving grad school and my observations of graduate student success after a decade of coaching students to complete their degrees.

About Today’s Guest

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Name: Dr. Cristie Glasheen (she/her)
Degree: Ph.D., Epidemiology
Current role: Graduate Student Success Coach

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1) Name one thing you wish someone had told you when you were a graduate student.

I wish that someone had told me that I wasn’t alone in how I felt in graduate school, what I worried about, and my doubts about my abilities. Having gone to graduate school before the explosion of social media, blogs, YouTube, and Ticktock, I felt very isolated. I had a great advisor and a great cohort, but none of us shared our inner thoughts and experiences. Imposter syndrome was rampant but wasn’t discussed. I constantly worried that I’d fooled everyone into thinking I belonged in grad school and that one false step would destroy the illusion. I worried that I wasn’t smart enough, fast enough, productive enough, or creative enough to succeed and that everyone was either humoring me or fooled by my mask of confident competence.

In hindsight, I know that most graduate students wrestle with the same insecurities I did but because we were all wearing that mask, it always seemed like everyone else had it together. I didn’t realize that this feeling was a common part of surviving grad school (not healthy, but common). I wish someone had said…hey, you’re not so great an actor as to fool an entire admissions committee, all of your instructors, and your dissertation committee into thinking you’re something that you’re not. Maybe then I could have accepted that feeling uncertain about what I was doing was a normal part of graduate school and not a mark of not being good enough to be there.

2) If you had a magic wand, name one thing that you would give graduate students to survive grad school with their sanity intact.

Students struggle with many different issues surviving graduate school but there are some repeated themes. If I could only give them one thing then I think I’d give everyone more distress tolerance. It’s one of the greatest skills a graduate student can develop for success in grad school and life in general.

Distress tolerance is the ability to tolerate uncomfortable emotions while not allowing them to get in the way of being successful. Grad school is filled with a lot of uncomfortable emotions: uncertainty, overwhelm, anxiety, disappointment, confusion, self-doubt, etc., and to survive grad school, you have to be able to experience these emotions and keep on progressing. Procrastination is the number one complaint I hear from grad students and I believe that a lack of distress tolerance is a major cause of procrastination. Students avoid getting started with their work because it’s uncomfortable. It triggers a lot of anxiety, worry, perfectionism, etc.

Students have to be able to sit down, as uncomfortable as it may be, and start working instead of avoiding the negative feelings by procrastinating. The more students avoid being uncomfortable, the more that sensation grows and it becomes a vicious cycle. The reality is, starting is usually the hardest part. The anticipatory anxiety is worse than the actual tasks, so once the student gets started the worst of the uncomfortable feelings usually dissipate. If students can learn to accept the discomfort, sit with it, and get started anyway, then surviving graduate school gets a lot easier (and faster).

3) You talk to a lot of graduate students about their relationship with their dissertation advisors, name one pet peeve that you have about how advisors relate to their students.

My biggest pet peeve is that advisors assume that because something (theoretically) worked to get them through graduate school, then that is how every student should do it.

I see this a lot in toxic productivity and toxic advisor behaviors. For example, I’ve had clients whose advisors have told them they should be putting in 12 to 16-hour days regularly because that’s what the advisor put in. The problem is that working that many hours leaves students fatigued and burned out without increasing productivity. When you’re fatigued, you’re less creative, have lower problem solving skills, are slower, more distractable, and make more mistakes. You’re not getting more done by working more hours, you’re actually getting less done over a longer period of time. The advisors didn’t succeed because they put in those hours, they succeeded despite it!

I also see the “it worked for me” attitude in toxic advisor behavior. I’ve had clients’ advisors demand that all works they review must be of pristine quality (they won’t review early drafts, etc. because that’s how their advisors were). The student then waste time endlessly editing, trying to be psychic and guess what their advisor is going to want, and constantly worried about the slightest mistake. This can leave the student down a wrong path for far too long and makes the student feel like they cannot get help early in the process. Meanwhile, the advisor rationalizes this as having “high standards.”

It’s the same way when motivating students. Many advisors use a “punishment” approach to motivate students to be more productive. I’ve seen advisors threaten to withhold funding over minor issues or tell the student that they will never graduate. This doesn’t motivate people, it stresses them out. The students who respond “well” to this approach would have responded just as well to having a rational discussion and the other students will shut down and perform worse because of it.


Surviving Grad School

So, these are my main observations for surviving grad school based on my time in graduate school and over a decade of coaching graduate students to earn their degrees. I hope that these observations help you through whatever stage of your graduate school journey you’re in. Remember, you’re not alone.

Wishing You All the Best in Your Academic Success.
Dr. Cristie Glasheen, Your Graduate Student Success Coach.


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H.N., Masters in Public Health

Just want to appreciate the incredible Cristie and how wonderful of a mentor she is. I’d want to be your student and to learn from you over and over again! There’s absolutely no one half as good as you’re. Thank you for being a part of my journey. My heart is SO full now that I’m done with my degree and I reflect on the huge role that you played in making it true. What a gem!

A.M., Postdoc, Atmospheric Science

Hi Cristie, I just wanted to let you know that I finished my presentation on time… one day ahead of schedule! That’s a first for me. Thank you for your help keeping me on track with our coaching sessions!

I.M., Ph.D. in Economics

What’s been the most helpful? “It has been useful to look at problems from a different/more helpful perspective. I like that I have been able to work on my thesis sustainably without burning out, considering that I have a full-time job. I usually feel very motivated to work on my thesis after the meeting with Cristie, and having weekly meetings helps me be accountable and drastically reduce my procrastination. I also really appreciate the knowledge sharing of resources and the work smarter, not harder approach (e.g. AI suggestions, Andy Stapleton videos, Focusmate, programs that help with identifying duplicates, etc).”

K.G., Ph.D. Public Health

Just got this in my email – [Dissertation] Approved with no restrictions! THANKS, COACH!

S.C., Professional Development Coaching

It’s so very evident how much Dr. Cristie cares about my progress and successes. It gets me through the hard days knowing how much she is genuinely routing for me. She’s gone out of her way to be responsive and supportive and help me get past the blocks I kept running into. She really did help get me unstuck and now I’m staying that way.

M.H., Ph.D. Toxicology

Dr. Glasheen! I passed with barely any revisions requested of me. I am able to submit my dissertation tomorrow morning […]!
Thank you for all your help!

Alex, Ph.D. Environmental Science

Having Cristie as a coach was one of the best investments I made in graduate school. Period. She was instrumental in helping me pass my comprehensive exam and finish my research proposal, all while giving me the tools to manage two other projects I was juggling at the time. Despite being laser-focused and results-driven in helping me achieve my academic outcomes, Cristie is also very human and reminded me that graduate school is more than just academics and that you have to make time for yourself and for fun stuff.

K.H., Doctor of Physical Therapy Student

It has been a crazy semester but it is going really well. Just finished 2 of my courses and feel really good about them. I feel like I have been able to use so much from working with you the last year to make this semester go amazing.

T.N., PhD. Evolutionary Biology

I’m a doctor!!! Wooo! The presentation went well […]. Thanks so much for all of your help getting to this point! I really appreciate it!

A.S., Ph.D. Epidemiology

I don’t know how other people who are balancing work and family manage to finish their dissertations without a coach, but I am so glad [other client] told me about you. This was the best decision I could’ve made. I’m so thankful.

A.S., Ph.D. Public Health

Finished! My dissertation was defended on 01-July and I am an official Ph.D.! What an incredible journey. I am so grateful for our interactions and still apply [your] lessons in life.

R.H., Admissions Coaching for Master’s Higher Education Admin

“Hi Dr. Cristie! (…)

I’m happy to report I got into all the programs I applied for!

  • [Redacted] University: fully funded, plus $24,000 stipend & health care (…)
  • University of [Redacted]: no scholarship offered, did not apply for GA positions.
  • [Redacted] University: offered 50% tuition, GA position offered up to 66% tuition. (…)”

*Some content redacted for privacy.

A.M., PhD Student, Economics

Successfully submitted my online [grant] application! It was an unknown journey for me, but what I now do know is that it was possible greatly thanks to you. So thank you so much!

A.S., Ph.D. Candidate, Industrial/Organizational Psychology

I PASSED [the oral comprehensive exams]. Thank you so so so so so much! I could not have done this without you! [redacted for privacy] I can’t believe it’s over […] The beginning of the end is finally here! I’m so happy!!!

G.G., Ph.D. Bioinformatics

I just wanted to let you know I successfully defended and will be graduating in a couple weeks!
Thank you again for all your help […]!

F.N., Ph.D. in Environmental Economics

What’s been the most helpful? “Breaking down tasks that overwhelm me. Navigating many difficult decisions that are crucial towards achieving my PhD. Getting feedback on my work. And tracking the work in progress which is often invisible.”

“I think Dr. Cristie does an amazing job. I have tried the free coaching provided by my institution and I would rather pay Dr. Cristie.”



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